Swinging
The Swinging Lifestyle is as Multifaceted, as life and people are? It's Basic belief is that EVERYONE, has the right to live, love and enjoy themselves sexually;---providing there is MUTUAL CONSENT between adults. This is the only area, that we all think alike!!! It is from this point on, we all differ about what the Swinging Lifestyle means to us and on what level, we choose to enjoy it's benefits.
The Swinging Lifestyle has been in existence since time began. Because on it's most basic level, the word "swinging" is only a board term meaning; the sharing of sexual pleasure with a person or persons we are not legally married to!!! In this context; most of the people in the world today, ARE swinging, whether they realize it or not!!!
The word "Swinging" derived from a Minister, who told his congregation, there were weird people who were swinging back and from bed to bed, in the same manner as Monkeys. He seemed to think the people we spoke about were doing something new, different and weird but he was very wrong! Even in Jesus' time it was the common and acceptable behavior for the wealthy and powerful to have many wives, concubines and slaves for their sexual pleasure!!! Several women rulers availed themselves of their power also, by keeping an equal number of male slaves and consorts to satisfy their sexual needs and desires too. So, what is being considered as new and weird conduct in our present unenlightened sexually controlled and somewhat puritan thinking work has been considered normal and even acceptable conduct for many people civilization and religions since time began!!! Most European & Asian countries: Africa, Iran, Egypt, China and Japan, were among those that have lived in this manner for centuries and some still are today! In France, during Queen Marie's time; wild orgies were the norm, until she lost her head for being a taker instead of a giver! Just maybe, that was then people started to assume that when you lost you head over sex it was dangerous or wrong!
Many of our movie stars are known for the sexual games they play, on and off screen, but most people just laugh and secretly envy them and talk badly about their neighbors if they are acting in a similar manner. It is normal for people to hate, deride, and judge anyone who has claimed their right to enjoy their sexuality in any manner they have chose not to regardless of their own hidden desires!!!
For many years, the small Home Party situations was the only way people enjoyed swinging and they were restricted to couples only. This was a very much male-dominated society at that time, so it was definitely considered wife swapping. The attitude was: you can swing with my wife, if I can swing with your's? It's a fact, many people & clubs haven't progressed past this restrictive attitude today! Only for the last few years, have some clubs allowed Female or Male singles
Committed couples, who have acknowledged themselves as swingers and have come into the swinging lifestyle, so they may act as each others best friend and continue to have totally truthful relationships, rather than lie to each other and have secret affairs. I personally consider it strange that the people in our world today are more understanding of secret affairs, than they are of an alternate lifestyle that advocates, demands and requires total truth!!!
Only about 10% of the people enjoying the swinging lifestyle have mentally and emotionally accepted their sexuality enough to be completely open about being involved in it! Some try to keep this fact secret due to the fears about how this knowledge would affect their lives, family relationships and careers. While other's hide the truth because they refuse to admit even to themselves they are swingers. This is why many don't attend organized clubs. They try to tell themselves that as long as they only to go small home parties with friends, they are not really swingers!!!
The couples who have been able to admit, they enjoy the swinging lifestyle, attend the major functions the lifestyle offers. This helps them to grow, learn and get past their fears, while the closet swinger has denied themselves this opportunity due to their fear.
If I could sum up, what the swinging lifestyle really is and isn't, I would have to say that depends totally upon the needs, desired and attitudes of each individual who enters it. If you desire only more and better opportunities for sex that's possible! If you are lonely and want good friends too, who will love and care about you while you enjoy going to dinner, dancing, camping and fishing, that is possible! If you want to meet people from all over the world to visit and visit you, that is possible!!! So just as in every other facet of life, swinging is what you make of it, nothing more, or nothing less.
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